Within the expansion of spiritual awareness comes the concept of love. There are two ways of loving: one is with conditions (which is the way most people show love) and one is without any conditions at all.

Conditional love is based on control. It is when your behavior shows, “I will love you  only if…” but you don’t actually say it to your child. Examples of this are when your child does something that you don’t like that limits your ability to love purely, or, when you have an idea of something your child should be, but is not, and you hold back love. This happens all the time, and most people aren’t even aware that they are doing it. We like to think that we strive to give unconditional love.

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Loving unconditionally  is the process of allowing children to be who they are and loving exactly what you see in them. It has nothing to do with control and everything to do with freedom. It is the ability to celebrate your child in their uniqueness.

The way to unconditional love is to be a silent observer. As a parent, the role of the silent observer requires honor, respect and a keen level of awareness. There must be an absence of negativity, judgment and preconceived notions. Set aside your negative belief patterns in order to support your child’s individual beauty. This role is about connecting with your child in an intimate way, giving yourself the time to observe what they  love and what brings them joy. When parents are able to take on this role, the sacredness of parenting is revealed. This selfless act preserves and encourages individuation as well as self-respect and inner trust.

Watch to see what brings your child emotions like joy, frustration, interest and confusion and love those things about them- -the way they are–not the way you want them to be. To love unconditionally, we love with no strings attached.

Children absolutely must be given unconditional love in their early years. Parents who feel that they themselves did not receive this kind of love may have a difficult time figuring out how to break the cycle.

But it can be done.

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