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Victim or Creator?

 

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Hi it’s Julianna Lyddon here and I have a couple of concepts that I want to throw your way. These concepts have been helpful for not only my clients when I bring them up, but for my students. I teach incoming freshman. Also its great to use with your employees. Its wonderful to use with your children and again these are fairly easy or simplistic as I say, but they are concepts that we don’t always think about.

So when I throw the word victim out there, what comes to mind? What do you think about? Because the individual that acts as the victim, is that person that likes to blame everybody else. That doesn’t want to take responsibility. That doesn’t like to be held accountable. It was her fault. It was his fault. The teacher just doesn’t like me. My boss doesn’t understand me. Right? There’s always an excuse. We know these individuals. Maybe there’s been a time in your life where you have been that individual. Right? Okay so when I throw this other word out there, the word creator, what comes to mind when you think about that? Well when we are the creator, we are the individual that sees opportunity everywhere.

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Are you Getting your Needs Met?

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I want to talk about getting your needs met in your relationship. Let me tell you this is one that I see a lot. It has come up lately in my practice. So whatever happens I try to bring it up in my blog to provide some really helpful tips for people. But here’s the thing, whether you’re in a relationship and maybe your partner is having an affair, maybe they’re having a physical affair. Maybe you found out they are having an emotional affair. Maybe it’s not to that point but you’re in a relationship where you just feel dull. Where you just feel almost frozen, like nothing is really making a difference. You’re not feeling fully connected to that person you’re just kind of going through the motions.

 

I get a lot of people saying that “you know what?” I just have a roommate. I don’t feel like there is any chemistry, I don’t feel like there is any sexual energy between us. We just kind of live together and take care of each other. Because we do care about one another but we’ve lost that kind of passion.

 

So no matter what your issue is you know there’s something wrong in your relationship and the first thing I have to say here is to reach out and get the support you need.

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Navigating the Pain in Marriage

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In my practice, I help many couples and individuals work on their relationships and it is an honor to help them navigate the pain, struggles and questions they grapple with when giving it their all! They come in wanting to give their marriage one last chance. Often, by the time they have exhausted all their options, many come to the conclusion that a divorce is what’s best. When this decision has finally been made, I’m always so proud of how far they have come in their personal growth and to witness the love they have that is beyond themselves is awe-inspiring.

In honor of so many couples out there that finally get to the end of this tiresome journey….they deserve to celebrate their divorce…they will now be free to separate and continue their lives as an independent person ready for new chances and opportunities! I say… Happy Divorce to you! Celebrate 🍾


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Are you thinking about moving in together or getting married?

 

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Hi its Julianna Lyddon here and so today I want to talk about something that came up my classroom. I teach college kids, incoming freshmen in Arizona and today we were talking a little bit about habits and how we can stop behaviors before they become habitual and having that real awareness of what a habit is and how long it takes a habit to be actually formed and really getting in there and making that unnecessary shift.

Some of the kids brought up….. we have such great discussions …and some of them brought up this concept of relationships and marriages and how complicated that can be when two people have very specific habits. And how they come together in a relationship and how it can be extra difficult at eradicating or even really making the shift that’s very necessary so then the conversation kinda parlayed into someone asking if I believe in premarital counseling and so we had a discussion about that and I absolutely think that if individuals would go to see someone before they get married or even moved in together more marriages would be salvaged… would be saved.

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Four First Date No No’s

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In my coaching practice, I help many people navigate the dating world. It is a different game then it used to be. There are so many different ways to meet people with all of this online dating.  We really need to be cognizant of a few things. There are so many mistakes that people make that can be avoided.  So lets get to it.

  1.  When you are on a date be sure that you are not spending the entire time discussing all of the devastating,  disastrous dates you have had in the past. You would be surprised how many people do this and especially if you are talking about online dating and then they start sharing all of these horrific experiences and the other person says I don’t think I want to hear this, what is wrong with you. So be careful about doing that.
  2. Be careful about comparing the person you are on a date with to somebody else.  Often we come out of a relationship and we are so unhappy because maybe the individual broke up with us and we love them so much….that we cant stop thinking about them so everybody new we are with we are comparing and holding an opinion or a judgement. So go into that first date thinking that you are just going to have fun. You are going to live in the moment you are not going to spend too much time about what is going to happen in the future.  You are just going to have fun.  So you cant hold any preconceived notions here.
  3. I want you to be very very careful about talking about yourself too much…..

 

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Connecting with your teenager

I want to talk to you parents, guardians, individuals that are raising children that are adolescents. Maybe they are in their pre teen years approaching adolescence.  Maybe you have a child that is acting out a bit and giving you a hard time. This is the issue and the topic I want to cover today in this video.  One thing I found when I was studying for my masters program for marriage and family and child therapy and what I have found in the real world and in my coaching practice, because periodically I coach parents on parenting and when they hit these road blocks and need just a little extra special attention, that we all need to practice our listening skills.  

There really is an art to listening. Click To Tweet

And I know as well because I am the mother of three grown children myself, and parenting can be very very hard.  Especially when we hit the adolescence with our kids.  Its as if they are poof and gone. One day you have this incredible child that communicates with you openly maybe gives you hugs in public, wants to talk to you, wants you to be included in their activities. And the next day they’re gone.  Its like where did that child go that we knew for so many years.  And it can be so frustrating and it can be really scary.  So the one thing that we need to practice as parents is being a better listener, me included at times.  I tell you what its not necessarily easy and it takes some practice and it takes patience.

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I am thinking about something!!!!

 

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I want to share something about our thoughts. We need to know how powerful our thoughts are. And when I say that, you may be saying, I know… but you really may not know! They really really are powerful. I do a workshop on imagination and how powerful it is when we really tap into that place. I don’t think people realize that thoughts really are powerful.

We see those quotes on facebook and elsewhere and as cliché as it sounds those are out there and people have known this since the beginning of time that thoughts are energy and what we are thinking absolutely permeates our physical body and even more importantly funnels into our world. And it is part of what creates our reality.

Think about this, everything we see in our world, this computer I am working on, the microwave behind me, the tv, our cars, a jet engine, everything in our world was first created by a single thought that came up as a thought in someone’s mind and then moved into their imagination and they started to created it. Now maybe it took years to bring it to fruition or teams of people to actually bring about maybe a vaccine for an illness. Maybe it took many many years but every single thing in our world was once just a thought in someone’s mind.

So if you think about that, you begin to realize how amazingly powerful each and every one of us really is! I mean we have the ability with every single thought we have to shape our world on a daily basis.

And it gets even cooler than that!!  because With every thought that we have we are consciously making a decision. Click To Tweet

That decision either brings us closer to our dream or further away from it.

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#1 FEAR we all have in common?

 

#1 FEAR we all have in common?

 

#1 FEAR we all have in common?

Do you know what it is?

This is Julianna Lyddon and here is my question for you today.  Do you know what the number one fear is that most of us have in common?  Take a second… if you guessed being alone than you nailed it.  Studies show that most of us are scared of being alone at one time or another in our lives.  Now its natural for us to be concerned about this as we get older especially if we are going to lose our partner or we are in ill health.  But I want to talk about this concept of really being ok with being alone. No matter how old you are.  Because here’s the thing,

we spend our lives building relationships outside of ourselves Click To Tweet

We spend time working at the family relationships.  We spend time working at the relationships at our work or in our community or with our neighbors or in-laws and on and on.  But often we don’t spend time getting to know ourselves.  Many of us can define who we are by the relationships that we are in.  You know that individual who when their loved one goes out of town and they are alone, they have to go to stay at someone else’s house. Or we know that individual that can’t go anywhere without being with other people or they always have to be busy.  Because being alone is very scary, is very unsettling.  

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#1 FEAR we all have in common?


First Date No No’s

Going on a first date? 
Here are some no no’s for you to think about.

This is Julianna Lyddon and today on my video blog I am going to give you some tips on what not to do on your first date.  Through my coaching practice I am helping several people who are moving into this dating world and boy is it different than it used to be.

There are so many different ways to meet people with all this online dating and we need to be cognizant of a few things.  There are several things that I see, mistakes that people make that really can be avoided.

Number one… Be sure when you are on a date, that you are not just simple talking about all the devastating, disastrous dates you have had in the past.

You would be surprised how many people do this especially if you are talking about online dating.  And then they start sharing all of these horrific experiences and before you know it one person is like I don’t want to hear this anymore, what’s wrong with you…

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First Date No No's

 


Do you have a Soulmate?

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Soulmates – do you have one?

What is a soulmate? Have you ever had a connection with another person that resonated so deeply that the feeling couldn’t be put into words?

Maybe your eyes got stuck in a gaze of familiar connection or once you started a conversation it was effortless, as if you had known them forever. Sometimes there may be an excitement when first meeting that simply exudes from both of you…like…”there you are, I’ve been looking for you!”

All of these are examples of a soulmate meeting or encounter. Often people believe that soulmates are only for lovers…this isn’t true. We have soulmates that are friends, family members, lovers, and people we have never met. Soulmates are like kindred spirits…an individual that speaks to the deeper sense of who you are. Someone who “gets you”, “feeds” your  purpose and encourages your growth.

Mutual respect and understanding are part of the connection and both are genuinely involved to enrich each others life purpose. Sometimes they may only be in your life for a short time, to teach and inspire.

Always remain open for the opportunity to meet a soulmate. We have many throughout our lifetime and the impact they have is rewarding and powerful. 


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