Eliminate the work and stress from sex: (Continued from Previous Blog Post)

5. Trust. The most satisfying sexual experiences typically come in relationships based on trust. Trust allows you to be more comfortable with who you are sexually, eliminates worry about how your body looks, and eliminates concern about sharing your true desires and communicating your needs to your partner. It creates the comfort zone for exploration.

Questions to discuss with your partner:

Do you trust your partner in the bedroom?

Do you feel relaxed or uptight during sex?

Do you feel your partner may hold something against you that you shared or tried during a sexual experience with him/her?

Do you wish you could try different sexual positions or experiment with toys with your partner, but are concerned he/she might think you’re strange?

Does your partner have “weird” fantasies that concern you or that you don’t feel comfortable exploring?

Do you and your partner share your fantasies with each other?

6. Focus on your partner. This will definitely be returned to you. Take yourself out of your own sexual experience and concentrate on your partner. Rekindle his or her fire. Learn what he or she likes–you may be surprised! Next time it can be your turn.

Questions to discuss with your partner:

Can you imagine allowing yourself to focus on your partner during sex–making it all about him/her?

Do you think your partner could focus only on you occasionally during sex or would he/she be too concerned with ejaculating or cumming?

Do you see the benefit of exploring your partner in a new sexual way . . . finding new pleasure zones no matter how long you have been together?

7. Just do it! Next time you or your partner wants to have sex, don’t say no. Just go ahead and do it. Doing so can help jumpstart the process. There is no time like the present. Try making a date for sex and allow your partner the chance to jump start your engine–help him/her out if need be. You can make sex “sexy” even it it‟s planned. Take the stigma out of sex and just do it!

Questions to discuss with your partner:

Have you ever made a date for sex?

Is your sex life TIRED?

Do you think you need to jazz things up in the bedroom?

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