I am continuing to share the ideas of Sexual Empowerment and how to “bring out the goddess within.”

You can refer to previous posts for more details or purchase the complete copy of the ebook, SEXUAL EMPOWERMENT: Bring Out The Goddess Within.

When you are ready, you can move forward with the Basic Sacred Sex Techniques.

BASIC SACRED SEX TECHNIQUES

MAINTAIN A DEEP LEVEL OF INTIMACY AND CONNECTEDNESS.

Gaze into each other’s eyes as much as possible. Shower your lover’s face, neck, and shoulders with soft kisses and whisper words of love and encouragement. Help each other feel loved, desired and wanted.

SLOW IT DOWN.

A long, slow build helps men to control orgasm and piques women’s arousal. According to Tantric teacher Robert Frey, the longer you linger in this process of building energy, the longer men can resist ejaculation. During this time, focus on each other. If your thoughts should wander, gently bring your attention back to the present, concentrating on your lover and the magic of the moment at hand.

BRING YOUR ATTENTION BACK TO YOUR BREATH.

Bringing your attention back to your breath keeps you in the moment. Resist the urge to breathe fast. Quick breathing creates arousal, speeding you toward orgasm. Instead, take long, slow, deep breaths from the depth of your belly, exhaling gradually. Try to match your breath to that of your partner, or try breathing alternately: as you inhale, your partner exhales. This allows you to move energy back and forth and connects you to your partner.

VARY SEXUAL POSITIONS TO EXPLORE DUALITY.

Different sex positions add to sexual pleasure and also balances the male and female energies. When lovers release themselves from gender roles, they are free to engage in more intimate sex. Men realize their sexual potential through surrender, by being soft and open, and vulnerable. Women, in turn, can direct and initiate. As you experiment with different positions, some male-dominant, some female-dominant, explore your ability to be strong and gentle, generous and receptive.

TOUCH.

Use this sense in an almost exaggerated way. Blindfold each other or close your eyes to feel your way as if it is new territory you have yet to discover.

DON’T BE “GOAL-ORIENTED.”

Don’t be concerned about either you or your partner reaching orgasm. Enjoy each other and be in the moment.

Following are suggested questions to discuss with your partner. Take time to each answer the questions in detail.

Is your partner concerned about ejaculating and doesn’t wait for you to cum? (Try continuing the sexual experience until both have reached orgasm.)

Does your partner want you to reach orgasm before he/she does and sometimes this creates a sense of pressure for you?

Could both you and your partner explore the option of having a sexual experience and practice not reaching an orgasm? (Try it out!)

Can you and your partner practice making the goal of sex a more intimate energetic, spiritual connection instead of making it all about the physical pleasure every once in a while?

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