What are the intuitive pathways that can be incorporated into the family environment to encourage confidence and independence? The ebook, Raising a Happy Spirit: The Inner Wisdom of Parenting lays out the chapters on intuitive pathways in easy to follow steps that are best introduced at young ages, but can be productive when used at any stage of development during a child’s life. These pathways are tools that encourage spiritual growth. They are:
This blog post will focus on the first pathway, Touch.
Touch is one of the most powerful forms of bonding. It creates an energetic connection that affects the resonance within the individual who is receiving the touch. It is a non-verbal way of saying a variety of caring, loving expressions such as “I love you,” “Please listen to what I am saying because it is important,” “I care about you,” and “I am here and present with you in this moment.”
We often don’t pay close attention to nonverbal language because its impact is hidden. Do you remember a time when a touch resonated with you and changed your life? When we are touched or when we touch another in a compassionate way at a vulnerable moment, we open the channel to where spirit is revealed.
Bonding through touch is vital from birth through adulthood to encourage a sense of self-worth. It is the first way a child appreciates their sense of self. When we touch our children with loving intent, the child feels it and recognizes it as a sign that they are loved and that they matter.
As we age, we receive touch less often. By the time children reach junior high school, they receive half the amount of touch from their families they received in elementary school.
Begin to use touch when your child is in the womb by caressing your belly and talking to your baby. Your unborn child is highly sensitive to the loving energy that is conveyed through your touch and your voice. It is so easy to do during pregnancy, but remember to continue affectionate touch throughout your child’s life.
Use touch as your child grows in order to connect on a deeper level, to show them that you want to get into their world and that you care about what they have to say. When talking with your child, when trying to teach or impart wisdom, coupling it with a touch reinforces the parent/child bond.
They are able to feel that you care and it encourages them to listen and be in the moment with you.
Touching your child is important, but so is talking about it. Teach children about the concepts of good touch and bad touch. Parents may feel uncomfortable discussing this topic, but it is both necessary and natural to communicate this information early in their life.
You may begin this conversation at bath time, as early as age two. Teach them about their anatomy, including the names of private parts. Make it simple. This subject shouldn’t be intimidating, or ignored. Enter it with ease and levity. Encourage your daughter to wash her breasts and labia and your son to clean his penis in a healthy and respectful way. You are teaching them the beginning steps of owning their body, living in it and valuing it.
As your child gets older, it is up to you to create a more in-depth understanding of personal space and protection. For example, tell them that their bodies are precious and sacred and no one is allowed to touch them in a way that feels strange, angry, violent or even gentle–but odd or wrong.
Talk about how intuitive feelings surface as indicators that will alert them when they are in a potentially dangerous situation. Discuss scenarios and stories that they can relate to, using these kinds of conversations as tools for teaching the difference between good touch and bad touch. Talk with them about their own personal power and how to preserve and celebrate their body in a safe way.
Children are bright and are naturally intuitive. It is the job of parents to begin the process of positive, loving touch within a healthy atmosphere where children are taught to trust in their intuition and to know the difference between positive and negative touch.
When you touch your child you are creating self worth because you are instilling them with a non-verbal action that speaks of your love. It is the spirit of your child that will feel the love in your touch.
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